Seek Your Truth
By Lisa Martin
Discovering and living a life of success and balance, means orienting
yourself around your truth. It is not always easy to be honest. I once
read an article that said on average people tell about 7 lies an hour. I
remember being quite shocked by that claim believing that it couldn’t
possibly be true. But as I began to think about it, I realized that I did
tell “little white lies” more than I thought. Mostly because I wanted to
spare others’ feelings or I felt by being truthful I made myself too
vulnerable. When I dug a little deeper, I was amazed to learn that some of
the biggest lies I’d ever told had been to myself. Perhaps it was a
self-protective measure. But clearly when I hid from the truth, I made
decisions that pushed my life in a direction that did not serve me.
We are so busy that we often do not listen to or tell our truth. Many
of us just skim the surface of our lives. Our everyday motions fill our
lives up, yet we feel unfulfilled. By not paying attention to our inner
wisdom, our truth center, we are unsure of what is really important to us:
what makes us tick and brings us joy.
So, how do you become brutally honest with yourself? The four C’s:
courage, caring, change and commitment.
Seeking the truth about your own life takes courage. Asking
tough questions and answering them truthfully is essential, even though
the outcome may be surprising and scary. Taking stock of the inventory of
your life is a daring, bold initiative. Accept the results of this quest
with an open mind and caring heart. Go easy on yourself. When you
begin excavating your true self it can sometimes be painful. You might
have some regrets, notice missed opportunities or come to the realization
that some things just have to change.
It is normal to feel some personal upheaval and adjustment going
through this process. It is important to maintain objectivity. For
example, if you discover you have not been spending as much time with your
child(ren) as you’d like, do not beat yourself up. Instead acknowledge
your truth and devise a plan to start living it. This doesn’t necessarily
mean making a dramatic transformation immediately. But being open to
change and aligning your life with your authentic self is key. Just
start with small steps like leaving the office in time to be home for
dinner or spending a weekend afternoon with your child. The most difficult
part is beginning the process of change. Once underway, change creates its
Finally, commit to seek, speak and live your truth on a daily
basis. Create the space to tap into your inner wisdom. That could take the
form of meditation, journaling or communing with nature. I invite you to
carve out some time each day to connect with your truth. The result will
be life enhancing.
Make Your Move
Use your journal to uncover your authentic self. Take some quiet
time to answer these questions. What do you really believe to be true
about yourself? Who are you at your very core? Who are you when no one is
looking? What brings you joy? Is this the way you want things to be? What
would you change, if anything? How can the four C’s: courage, caring,
change and commitment work for you? Be candid. Be honest.
About the author: Laura Burkey coaches her
clients to get the results they want! Read more at
www.lauraburkeycoaching.com Ms. Burkey is so committed to the work she
does for her clients that she founded the Coach Master Skill Group
www.coachmasterskillgroup.com an organization committed to on-going skill
practice and development for professional coaches dedicated to coaching
mastery. Ms. Burkey is available for individual, group, and corporate
coaching. Workshops and speaking engagements available on a limited basis.