Positive Path Recommended Reading

Two Magic Words that improve relationships FAST!
By Harriet Meyerson

Are some of your work or personal relationships frustrating? Here's an instant solution. At home or on the job, you can improve your relationships with these two magic words.

The magic is in these two simple words, "I appreciate." These two magic words will make others feel close to you and create loyal relationships.

Don't be like the husband who told his wife on their wedding day, "I'm telling you now that I love you, and if that ever changes, I'll let you know." To have great relationships you must continually let people know that you care about them and appreciate them.

Wouldn't you like a little more appreciation? Everyone does! People crave appreciation. Nobody ever gets enough, and the most difficult people hardly get any at all. Saying, "I appreciate", or "Thank you" is the easiest thing you can do to improve your relationships - FAST.

Obviously, you know to say "Thank you" when someone gives you a gift or does something special for you. However, if you're seriously interested in improving your relationships, you need to let people know how much you appreciate things that are not special. These are the things that we just take for granted because people are supposed to do them anyway.

Start today by saying, "I appreciate" for all those little things. Making a simple phone call, or writing a short note only takes a minute or two.

To your co-worker say, "I appreciate your pleasant smile. It makes me look forward to coming to work."

To your husband say, "I appreciate your taking out the trash, and helping the kids with their homework, etc."

Appreciation makes people feel valued, and accepted. These powerful attributes act like a magnet to attract people to you and make them trust you.

Just think of all the benefits you can get simply by saying, "I appreciate."

  • You will feel happier because you are focusing on how others are making your life better, not on their shortcomings.
  • You will feel more successful because, even though your life is not perfect, you will be living with an attitude of gratitude for what you have now.
  • You will be creating an atmosphere of acceptance both at work and at home.
  • You will receive more cooperation from co-workers, and family.
  • You will receive more appreciation for yourself in return.

If it makes such a difference why don't more people show their appreciation? It's probably because most people consider writing thank you notes a chore. Instead, here's how you can have fun - get creative.

  • Cover your thank you letters with the word "Thank You" in different sizes and fonts. 
  • Make your own colorful thank you cards 
  • Give decorated "Thank You" cookies 
  • Buy thank you gifts at the toy store 
  • Write a poem. 
  • Send a quote 
  • Along with your thank you note include a joke 
  • Bake your favorite dessert and include the recipe in your gift. 
  • Give chocolate Kisses
  • Give a plant or flowers

To help you remember to express your appreciation often, make a list of the people you want to thank. As you thank them, write their names on your calendar. Do this each month and realize all the relationships you have improved.

Appreciation is like spreading man-made sunshine into the lives of those who have, in some small way, made your life happier. They will, in turn, spread this sunshine to others, just like tossing a pebble into the water spreads ripples far and wide.

About the author: Harriet Meyerson, president of The Confidence Center, works with companies that want confident, loyal, and happy employees, and with individuals who want the confidence they need for success. Harriet is a member of the National Speakers Association and the author of Fire Up Your Staff on a Shoestring Budget.

Visit the Confidence Center web site for - Free employee morale newsletter. Free articles on employee success and personal confidence. Free articles for your company or association newsletters. Seminar, and telephone coaching information. Free daily fun stuff. http://www.ConfidenceCenter.com 
E-mail: Harriet@ConfidenceCenter.com

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