Do You Know what to Do?
By Beth Burns
”One's deep intuition is an infallible guide to purpose and
accomplishment.”
Willis Harman
OK, so I was chatting with my coach (Yes, coaches have coaches too!)
and we were having one of those "aha" coaching conversations. I was
lamenting over how busy my life was and how many obligations I had. You
know, stuff to do! There's always stuff to do, isn’t there? I am sure you
can just hear me now, "I have to do this ... and I have to do this, and
this and this ..............." Clearly, I was in "stress mode." Not
attractive.
So, Marsha, the wise, wonderful, womanly coach, says to me in her
quiet, demure voice, "Beth, instead of all the things that you HAVE to do,
what is it that you KNOW to do?" Ahhhhhhhh. This is a light-bulb moment
for me as I am reminded of why we have coaches in the first place.
What is it that you KNOW to do? That's an interesting question. When we
say we KNOW to do something, aren't we really just empowering ourselves to
be authentic? Aren't we, in fact, letting "our conscience be our guide?"
Consider the following:
I "have" to work late versus I "know" to go home and be with my family.
I "have" to respond to win versus I "know" to respond with compassion.
I "have" to have a new outfit versus I "know" the clothes I have are fine.
I "have" to do it all myself versus I "know" I need to delegate.
I "have" to have a perfect house versus I "know" I should play with my
kids.
I "have" to make an impression versus I "know" I am enough already.
When we operate from the place of all the things we "have" to do, we
are dishonoring that part of ourselves that whispers softly in our ear,
"Listen to me … I know what is best for you." When we focus on the "have
to items," we are focused on image and those things that are outside of
us.
Doing the things we "know" to do allows us to fully express ourselves.
It allows our intuition to be our guide and teacher. What you "know" to do
contributes most to your life and to your future.
Give this a try. The next time you are stressing out over more things
than you care to juggle, simply get quiet and ask yourself, "What is it
that I KNOW to do here?" Whatever comes up for you will say a lot about
who you are and will guide you to your priorities. Follow your heart!
About the author: Beth Burns is a Professional Life
Coach -- partnering with motivated people on their personal and
professional goals. Her mission is to teach people to love themselves and
to love the life they create. She offers two free email newsletters and
can be visited on the web at
www.BrightSideCoaching.com She can also be reached by email at
Beth@BrightSideCoaching.com |